How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
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    The talk was very good interesting!
    But the background noise is very annoying/ unpleasant ..

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    when he said when you take things personally it connects to your childhood bro...

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    Jocko Willink has an interesting take on this. He says he takes most things personally, but he doesn’t show it. There’s people that he worked with in the Navy Seals that he absolutely hated, but he never let them know it. He treated the people he hated the same as he treated the people he liked.

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    I feel a little uncomfortable with the excessive negative emotion and feelings Frederik unveiled about himself in this talk, but then I realize he was expressing himself in a very sincere way and decided not to be affected by other people’s criticism — that is the ego or personal value he was keeping talking about. And I think he did it in not taking things personally himself! Great speaker~
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    Why can't they teach this stuff in school? Could have saved me years of unnecessary pain thinking everything is about me. 😭😪😭

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    the last line is the essential

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    The real question is, does he use the same 20 euros everytime he gives his talk

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    the thumbnail looks like Prince Harry.. and im like.. oh.. isn't he the epitomy of currently taking things personally

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    The secret is to stop caring !

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    im taking the silence of the audience personally

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    I especially love the last part of his speech!

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    Ted Talk shoud invite David Goggins

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    If u take it personally why should I listen to u? Goodbye

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    For those who have been " victims " of " cancel culture ", we must remember, we still have value.

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    I hope Mj doesn't see this video 😮

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    This is the most connected I have felt with someone in months. Wow. Frederik is an excellent speaker and this topic is what I have struggled with the most through life. I always know the talk has made a lasting imprint if it's got me tearing up with happiness at the end lol. Like finding a solution to what eats at you the most.... or at least a two-way approach to handling it. Thank you so much.

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    Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information:)

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    Het probleem is dat we dat vrijwel allemaal doen.

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    Horrible feedback and ringing in this video. Almost can’t watch. Nothing personal

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